Dredging

—Verb phrase
dredge up,
a. to unearth or bring to notice:
b. to locate and reveal by painstaking investigation or search:

In the process of dredging up a canal, sediment is pulled from the bottom and redeposited elsewhere. The purpose is to keep the canal navigable. Sometimes the material that is excavated can helpful, making something new like a spoils island or replenishing sand to a washed-out beach.

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I got a call on Tuesday from someone I know. She really needed someone to talk to and went down her mental list of whom she could trust. Surprisingly, she landed on me. We've never talked about personal issues before so I was honored that she did.

Then she told me that her husband has been having an emotional affair outside of thier marriage. Since I have quite a bit of experience in this arena, from BOTH sides of the coin, I understand completely what's happening and can offer some pretty serious advice on how to handle things.

So here I am, dredging up my sediment and depositing it in a new location, hoping to make someone else's marriage more navigable.

There are so many layers to the pain that is causing me in the meantime. I hope it works and makes it worth the effort.