I was on match.com earlier today and all the guys (and probably the girls) keep saying they want someone with a sense of adventure, who likes to travel, enjoys all sorts of fun activities like tennis, boating, blah blah blah. Then it hit me: Once they get married, they get disappointed that their reality relationship doesn't look anything like their fantasy relationship. Unfortunately, some see their disappointment as an excuse to create excitement in other ways, sometimes by stepping out of their relationship into emotional (or physical) affairs.
The big problem is that if you leave your spouse for someone else, it's quite likely that you'll face the same problem again because reality can never match fantasy. It's not all flowers, romantic dinners and walks on the beach. It's maintaining a home, staying financially stable and walking through life together.
Unfortunately, if your match.com profile says "I want someone who will help by mowing the lawn, pays bills on time and is happy just BEING together," you don't get a lot of attention.
3 years ago
