Focus on the POSITIVE!

I had a friend suggest this week that perhaps I need to do a better job on focusing on the POSITIVE things in my life rather than constantly complaining about the negative.

I have another roof leak that I thought I could wait until spring to fix since winter is usually pretty dry here. Today we had a deluge that was very spring-like. There is a puddle in my house. It's going to cost about $7,000 to properly fix the roof.

I'm POSITIVE that I have no idea how I'm going to manage this one.

(Is that better? Am I being more positive?)

Karma?

For the past few weeks, I've been letting a friend stay in the cabana while she is separated from her husband. On Saturday, she'll move into the Pez room because another friend is going to move into the cabana while he recovers from a job loss. I'm not doing it for any other reason than I have space and they need space.

This week the car broke down, the wireless router crapped out, the pool pump started leaking, an electrical breaker is on the fritz, the dishwasher tried to eat a cookie press disk and the dogs ate my AquaVee. Oh, and let's not forget the Facebook "as if" request (which I ignored.) If it weren't for bad luck, I'd have no luck at all.

Seriously - what gives? If this is what's going to happen every time I try to help someone, then forget about it. I'm done.

Dear Ex

"I was quite surprised to see your friend request on Facebook today. Our marriage ended over 11 years ago and not on good terms. We haven't spoken since and have moved forward with our own lives. I'm curious as to what caused you to feel the need to reconnect at this point. Your request had no personal note attached, so I'm only left to speculate what is on your mind. I'm sure I have no idea.

When relationships end, a door closes but many other opportunities open. To re-open closed doors is to peek into past memories, good and bad, and to risk the flood of regrets and "What if....?" I think for both of us, it may be best to leave that door closed. I wish you nothing but the best for you, your family and your future."


OK gang - this is SOOOO not what I really want to say but I think for all parties involved, it's best to just not engage and let sleeping dogs lie. (No Pastelitos reference intended.) Please give me your input and help me write one of the most important notes of my life!

Focus on the middle!

Someone wise once said that good things and bad things happen simultaneously in life. It's like parallel tracks on a railway line. We just tend to focus on one side or the other. That describes my life right now. I've been really focused on what is SO good (almost everything) and haven't worried about the rest. Then in the span of 24 hours I get hit from all sides with things that just want to make me crawl in bed and come out in February like Puxtahawney Phil, the groundhog.

Is it possible to just focus on the middle? It might make me less joyful about the good things but the bad things won't derail me completely.